Sex Therapy
Reclaim your sex life
Sex is complicated. It can be a struggle sometimes.
You might come to sex therapy because:
You no longer want to have sex with your partner (or anyone)
You’re scared that your sex drive has turned off
Anxiety is getting in the way of performing in bed
You’re frustrated that your body isn’t responding how you want it to during sex
It’s hard to say what you need or want in bed
You want to feel more confident and worry free when it comes to your sex life
Insecurities feel paralyzing when it comes to sex
Shame is getting in the way of you exploring the type of sex you want
You can’t orgasm
You orgasm too quickly
You have pain or discomfort around penetration
You and your partner have different sex drives, interests, or styles
Sexual abuse or pressure has complicated your relationship with sex
You feel unsatisfied with your sex life and don’t know what’s wrong
You are not broken, but you need support. You have nothing to be ashamed of.
Let me help you figure things out.
Many factors can contribute to sex difficulties.
Pressure. Anxiety. Misinformation/lack of information. Life stress and transitions. Shame. Trauma. Relationship difficulties. Beliefs and past experiences. Miscommunications. Grief. Confidence. Body image. Chronic pain. Health and other medical conditions. Societal messaging. Restrictive sexual scripts or sex education. Time and other commitments. Unmet needs. Worries. Distractions.
There are ways to move forward from all of these.
Get your sex life back through therapy.
I offer sex therapy focusing on:
Dissatisfaction with sex
Low sexual desire
Sexual performance issues
(e.g., erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation)
Sexual trauma
Sex drive differences in relationships
Vulvodynia/pain during sex
Identifying and/or accepting your sexual interests and desires
Healing body image or societal beauty standard messaging
Undoing shame from societal, religious, or cultural messaging
Experiencing obstacles in exploring new kinks or sexual interests
Other concerns as requested
Treatments I offer:
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Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) is an evidence based treatment that helps you identify the factors affecting your sexual concerns and work to target each of them through cognitive, emotional, and behavioral techniques. We work on understanding and changed beliefs that negatively impact your sex life, as well as experientially gathering corrective and healing emotional experiences.
This treatment involves building mindfulness, using somatic coping skills, processing emotions, identifying and evaluating thoughts, undoing shame, and learning new information about sexual norms and functioning.
Treatment will be customized to you, and go at your own pace, respecting your boundaries and needs. This treatment can be done in relationship or solo.
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Sensate focus is a well established treatment for sex difficulties that helps alleviate pressure and stress around sex, and allows recovery of automatic responses of the body like sexual desire and arousal. This treatment helps build your abilities to cope with distractions and stay present, increasing enjoyment and pleasure in sex.
Sensate focus is customized to you, your specific difficulties and needs. You are able to set your own boundaries and go at your own pace in this treatment. This treatment can be done in relationship or solo.